Random Acts of Kindness

How has your week been? Once again there seems to be so much going on in the world and in our personal lives. In the midst of chaos we have to choices to make, don’t we? Change precedes and follows chaos as we’ve talked about before. So, what ways can you rise above the fray so to speak? How can you keep positive and moving forward rather than become paralyzed – not knowing which way to turn in spite of the chaos? Staying centered is key. Creating a more conscious prayer or meditation practice helps as well as focusing on deep breathing to calm when you are anxious. Visualization and intention setting techniques also work. I have found that these practices are all helpful and beneficial. Some of you have also shared how much you benefit from them as well. As I’ve enjoyed my own practice this week the theme of “kindness” has come up. So I’ve been sitting with it. Co-incidentally I belong to a meditation/discussion group who joins in a remote meditation monthly. This month, one of the members suggested that during our meditation we would be sending a heart generated request to the heart of the world to feel a strong impulse towards random acts of kindness for 7 days! I love the idea and how synchronicity works. I’m so grateful to be aware when this happens. I realize how interconnected we all are through consciousness. Did you know that February 17th is National kindness day? I didn’t. I have heard how people do random acts of kindness. I’ve even done some myself and I’m sure...

Who’s In Charge?

Can acceptance lead to feeling more grateful? Hmmm…I’ve noticed a shift. It happens when I release the illusion of control and resistance! It changes how I feel. Rather than being upset, angry, depressed, or feeling helpless imagine the power you might feel when you let go of things that you can’t control! This doesn’t mean abdicating responsibility for your actions or the choices that are yours to make. Does this make sense? Let’s play for a moment, ok? Remember the last time you didn’t want to accept a situation that you found yourself in and you felt helpless, depressed, upset or angry. Remember how you felt. Perhaps you felt like you wanted to “take charge”, “hurry things along”, or “force a desired outcome”. You may have told yourself, “Let’s get this show on the road!” Oops! There’s that desire and need to control the outcome! LOL I’m sure you meant it in that moment. I’ve been there myself! How did you feel? What happened next? Were you able to hurry things along and get the desired outcome you wanted? Was it the best outcome that could have happened? Maybe? Maybe not. Let’s continue to play. Now, close yours eyes and take a deep breath and remember the same experience. . .imagine accepting what is yours to do and let go of what isn’t – what is out of your control? What can you control? Your choices! What are the choices that you want to make now? What are the choices that aren’t yours – the ones that others are responsible for making – the ones you have no control...

Do You Feel Whole?

How many of you feel whole and complete? For many, there is an ongoing search to feel complete from things found in the external environment. For others, feeling whole comes from within. I’ve been sitting with this and reflecting on my own journey. How I feel about being complete and whole has shifted through the years. I definitively feel it through every fiber of my being. How about you? I wondered why feeling complete and whole took so long for me. As I look back on my life I have learned that I chose to wake up later in life and chose to create a foundation from traditional experiences before I began to explore less traditional ones over 20 years ago. That’s when my journey of spiritually awakening began. Believe me it has been warp speed since then! LOL I’ve felt, for many years, that our journey home is going home to Source and LOVE! This doesn’t mean you have to physically leave the planet in order to be on this journey. Each one of us gets there in our own time and unique way through the choices we make as well as our commitment to personal growth. Plato, a 4th Century B.C.E. Greek philosopher, has said, “Love is the name for our pursuit to be complete.” Hmmm. There is something here don’t you think? If God/Goddess/All That Is – Source, is love then perhaps we don’t feel complete or whole until we remember this truth. What do you think? I like to think of us as sparks of Source. We are not separate from Source. I know I’ve...

Create Balance!

Happy Autumn Equinox! Wow, where does time go? Along with the equinox we had a gorgeous Harvest Moon. This is the full moon closest to the Autumn Equinox. It appeared huge and orange! Stunning! I’m told the size at this time of year is an illusion! In many parts of the country I’m sure that the shift from summer to autumn is felt more with weather changes than we often experience here in Arizona although there are different parts of the state where the season shift is strong. We are looking forward to double digit temperatures soon instead of triple digits! LOL Once this happens we can feel our season shift! As I’ve reflected on this time I was curious about what the significance and mythology of the Equinox is. I found it interesting. There is a seasonal shift in farming communities where harvesting of crops occur. Gardens begin to go dormant in some areas. There’s a shift from light to dark and I found that Japanese Buddhists celebrate deceased relatives. In some religions this celebration occurs on November 1st which is often referred to as “Day of the Dead”. This time of year also brings in the astrological sign of Libra which represents balance. Rumi has said, “Life is balance of holding on and letting go.” There are many opportunities throughout life when we are invited to let go of things that no longer serve us. Creating balance in life is a choice. The allure of being told we are “successful” through our work, education, titles, and accomplishments can feel intoxicating, can’t it? Have you ever taken your...

In Gratitude!

I’m reminded of a quote from Rumi, “Today, let us swim wildly, joyously in gratitude.” It serves as a reminder to BE in each and every moment in gratitude. It doesn’t matter if one moment is challenging I’m reminded that the next one can be different. It’s a choice and one that is mine to make. Sometimes in a moment of challenge it is often difficult to see another way. As I imagine swimming wildly and joyously in gratitude I close my eyes and allow myself to “feel” a greater sense of joy and freedom – a greater sense of peace. Yes, I even imagine a big smile on my face and a lightness in my heart. This has been a particularly challenging week for me personally – loving, supporting, and being present for a loved one who was in the hospital. While there I experienced a full range of emotions that included love, impatience, fear, helplessness, hope, and gratitude to name a few. For me, this has been a time of surrender; trusting others to do their part; and knowing and accepting what was mine to do. I developed a greater respect for caregivers and learned to practice better self-care. I realize that in order to support and help someone else I have to be the best I can be. It’s too easy to deny this. As I’ve talked to others who have experienced similar situations with loved ones recently they agree that there is a balance that’s needed. Once you become depleted helping someone else is difficult. This means checking in periodically to see how all of...

Lean Into Surrender and Trust More!

“For things to reveal themselves to us, we need to be ready to abandon our views about them.” Thich Nhat Hanh Lately, it seems that my journey and growth opportunities have been all about surrender and trust. I mentioned last week that a family member has been experiencing a health issue for almost a month. During this time I’ve felt fear, uncertainty, helplessness, love, worry, frustration, and gratitude. In other words my emotions have had highs and lows! I’m sure that many of you have been through similar situations. Being unable to control the outcome of this situation has been challenging for me to say the least. I’ve had moments where I’ve said, “Let’s get this show on the road! It’s time!” It made me feel good to say it although it didn’t change things. LOL Of course, I recognize that I’m not in charge! Do you know what I mean? I’ve also had moments where I could laugh at myself, breathe deeply, move into my heart and feel grateful for the moment and presence of my loved one. Lean into surrender and trust more! I’ve been fortunate to have wonderful support from friends who care and who allow me to be me with full acceptance. My habit throughout life has been to take care of others and be “the strong one”! Sound familiar? I accept who I’ve been and who I’m becoming more of. I’m more comfortable these days with revealing more of me and what I’m feeling. It gets easier with practice! At least it has for me. At first, it just felt kind of weird. I’ve...

Who Ya Gonna Call?

I hope your long Labor Day holiday is safe and fun! I’m sitting here in Arizona with triple digit temperatures and find it hard to imagine the swirling hurricane named Dorian approaching the southeastern part of the country. If any of you are traveling to or have family and friends preparing for its impact I’m sending lots of love to you! So much has happened this week that seems unexpected. For me, one thing in particular stands out and it’s related to health. Why? I have a family member and friend who are addressing some health issues. When I heard that immigrants that are here seeking medical treatments not available in their own countries and are facing deportation regardless of their condition, I was stunned! Many of the people affected are children! I wonder, “Who’s in charge and who’s responsible for making decisions like these?” Who ya gonna call? Who’s responsible and accountable? Living more consciously, responsibly, and being accountable for our choices is key as we continue to grow personally and expand consciousness. What is happening here? For example, one young woman, now 24, is facing expulsion. She has been here since she was 7 years old and needs life saving treatments that aren’t available in her country. By the way, she was instrumental in the development of the treatments according to her doctor. Wow!! What are we creating? Can you imagine one of your family members being told they have 30 days to leave the country even though they were invited by our medical community to be here because of a rare disease? And, doctors agree that...

We Are Visitors!

My reflections this week have taken me in an interesting direction. I suppose it’s a result of seeing pictures of the melting ice in Greenland and the Arctic as well as the fires in the Amazon. Have you been affected as well? I asked myself, “Why have I felt the impact of these so strongly?” On the surface the answer seemed easy. I found the destruction unbelievable. The impact on the earth, environment, air quality, water, animals, nature, and humanity are far reaching for many years to come and many are irreversible. “It’s real”, I reminded myself. As I sat with this more I began to see my role in a deeper way – my role as a steward of these resources. After all, my time here on the earth is limited and so are the earth’s resources. We are all visitors. Yes, we may continue to return as we volunteer to assist in the evolution of consciousness but the present is now and what’s real! So, what can we do? I was struck by a quote from Wendell Berry, an American Novelist, poet, essayist, environmental activist, cultural critic, and farmer,“. . .the care of the earth is our most ancient and most worthy, after all, our most pleasing responsibility. To cherish what remains of it, and to foster its renewal, is our only legitimate hope.” I wondered, “How much do I take the earth for granted?” I felt his words deeply as I reflected on the destruction that’s occurring right now. Some is created by human beings and some is attributed to changes in our climate. In the...

The Power of Love!

“When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace.” ~ Jimi Hendrix After participating in a group conversation and meditation this week one of the members shared the above quote by Jimi Hendrix. It touched a chord within my heart and soul. Another person reminded us that the 50th anniversary of Woodstock is being celebrated right now. This brought back memories of the peace movement, hippies, and love that took place in the past. Am I dating myself? Some of you may remember! LOL Like many of you I continue to reflect upon what’s currently happening in our world. I’m reminded that there is a bigger picture and purpose. Yes, I realize that their is a lot going on. For me, some of it isn’t pleasant at all. I believe that the way we choose to respond to these experiences is what creates our own journey of personal growth. As I sit back and ask, “What’s the bigger picture?” I remember that each one of us is a  part of Source/God/the Universe/Creator – whatever you choose to name it is personal and beautiful. I will use Source for today’s article. The essence of Source is LOVE and our individual core essence is LOVE. This belief is found in many teachings. So why is there so much chaos in the world if that’s true? Hmmm. Now for some of you what I’m about to say may seem a little far out. Please take what resonates and let go of what doesn’t. Imagine that Source is without form and is nothing but consciousness. Yeah, just...

We Are Part of the Whole!

Words seem inadequate to describe the feelings I’ve experienced this week. Shock, horror, sorrow, anger, helplessness, judgment, hope, and yes even love! A wide range of emotions have been felt by me and others. The continued mass shootings in our country and harm by and to other human beings seems unreal and yet it is a reality. As I’ve reflected on how I’ve felt this week I’ve asked, “What’s mine to know or do about it?” At times I felt overwhelmed. Other times I just wanted to ignore it. And then, as I breathed and felt myself calming, I chose to lean more into Grace and be open and willing to receive guidance. Once I focused more inward I was reminded that our outer world is a reflection of our inner world. So what does this mean to me? An opportunity to look at and re-evaluate what I value and cherish has been presented. An opportunity to change and be willing to do what’s necessary to change has also been presented. For each one of us the answers will be different.  Peace and change must begin within me first before anything around me changes. I ask, “What prejudices, biases, hate, self-judgment do I continue to hold within me?” If any are revealed I ask for help to change and transform them so that I can become more loving, accepting, and compassionate of me and others. I find that often there are a few surprises when I do this. As I’ve become more aware and conscious in my personal growth for over 20 years I’ve learned that shedding of old...

What About Control?

Over the past couple of weeks I can’t believe how many people I’ve talked to that are having opportunities to recognize and address “control” stuff. Yes, this includes me too!! I keep thinking I’ve completely dealt with my need or desire to “control” things. What I realize is that “dealing” with it is still a form of wanting to “control” the outcome. Hmmm. “How did “control” show up for me this time”, you ask?  Imagine you’re on a road trip and riding as a passenger. Imagine you have total faith and trust in the driver. Now imagine your right foot starts applying the brake because you feel that you are too close to the car in front of you! Yes, and imagine this happening a number of times during the trip and wondering, “What in the heck is going on?” You tell the driver during a stop, “I’m sorry for applying the brake so often. I trust your driving completely. Is this something new?” They said, “No, it’s happened before but it’s ok!” Wow. I had a choice to make. I could relax, acknowledge, accept, and try not to dig a hole in the floor of the car or I could beat myself up and judge myself. Guess what I chose to do? LOL When we returned home and I had time to reflect on what happened I realized that this was an example of how uncomfortable I was because I wasn’t driving and feeling in “control”. Whew! We have so many opportunities to see layers of ourselves, don’t we? They can appear in a variety of ways. A...

In Silence

How has your week been? Lots of doing and being active? Have you had a chance to create a few moments of silence this week to experience and visit what I call “the inner monastery”? You might think of this as your heart space as well. I know that everyday living can be hectic and taking time for inner reflection often falls low on the list of priorities. However, I believe creating time for a few moments to BE silent is essential to our well being and personal growth. I find that it really doesn’t matter where silence can be created. For example, some find opportunities to BE in silence while in nature. Others find silence in church, during meditation, a quiet place at home, or even while driving! If you’re driving please don’t close your eyes! LOL  Seriously, driving can provide you moments of silence to help quiet your racing thoughts through deep breathing. This gives you an opportunity to clear your mind and gain clarity. There are many ways that opportunities to BE in silence and experience the benefits of entering your “inner monastery”.  Your imagination is endless so enjoy the opportunities to explore creating your own favorite place to BE in silence. Through the years I’ve noticed that every time I enter my inner monastery my experience is always different. Why? I’m always different! When I leave the silence of my inner monastery I feel better and sometimes, when I least expect it, I feel such an overwhelming feeling of unconditional love and gratitude! I experienced it again while traveling recently and spending time with my...

Enjoy – Now Dance!

I was recently reminded how serious, focused and intense I can be! My corporate training and background certainly reinforced this and I found this behavior was rewarded. Today, not so much. Today, I recognize that living a more balanced life is more important. This doesn’t mean you can’t live in a balanced way while working for corporations. At the time I worked for one I found it more challenging since I was rewarded and recognized for my work successes. My conscious awakening had not begun! I began to learn and choose living with more balance after marriage and having a child. The journey of balance, celebrating, and having fun has been an amazing and at times a challenging one for me. Changing behavior isn’t always easy but along the way I’ve learned to be more self-accepting instead of judging myself when I fall back on old habits! LOL. Let’s play for a minute. Imagine it’s the end of your work week. Close your eyes and engage your senses. First, bring your awareness into your heart space. Now, notice what you hear. Imagine hearing lively and uplifting music. Hear laughter and conversation all around you. People are sharing the joys and challenges of the work week. In fact, so are you! Imagine your friends or partner close by and feel the happiness and joy surrounding you. Maybe you’re at a restaurant, block party, or in your home. It doesn’t matter. Just notice how you feel as the tension of the long week melts away. Notice your body relaxing. Feel its’ sigh of contentment and happiness. Now, feel the beat of...

Explore Your Inner World!

So many images and words continue to be shown of physically imprisoned migrant children, men and women. My heart hurts! My soul cries out at such inhumane  treatment. Why are people used in such inhumane ways to further political gain? Why is this considered acceptable by some? This shouldn’t be a political decision. It’s a humanitarian one. Do we remain silent or let our voices be heard? I continue to ask myself, “What’s mine to do and how can I contribute to the change that needs to take place?” Does the color of someone’s skin, ethnicity, sexual orientation, or religious beliefs justify persecution and inhumane treatment? No way! Obviously there are others that do. For me this isn’t about politics. It’s about treating others humanely! With my heart and soul feeling the suffering of so many this week I feel like I must share a few thoughts although I don’t have all of the answers. My intention is to shine some light on what we as individuals are being invited to explore beyond the obvious. I know that many of you are doing things to improve inhumane conditions that others are experiencing. Some of you volunteer, use your professional skills, vote, and make financial donations to name a few. There are things that we, as individuals, can do to affect change through our inner world as well. So much is coming into the light right now for change and transformation. Systems are broken and often things must de-construct before the new solutions can be created and put in place. Rather than feel paralyzed by what we are seeing and...

Choose Freedom!

Once again I find myself choosing to write about freedom! I know I’ve written on this topic in different ways before and yet it still feels appropriate to write about it again in light of the 4th of July celebrations this week. What an opportunity for each one of us to reflect and ask, “What does freedom or being free mean to me?” For me it’s kind of hard to forget since the 4th of July is my birthday! LOL Although I will say as a kid I looked forward to the fireworks, birthday cake, and my mom always calling me her little firecracker! Yes, regardless of my age I was always her little firecracker! As I’ve progressed on my journey of awakening I look at the 4th of July differently. I’m amazed at how many artists sing about freedom in a variety of ways. I’m reminded of Bob Marley’s Redemption Song; The Star Spangled Banner, our National Anthem; Freedom Songs by Beyonce, Jason Mraz, and Pharrell; Blackbird by the Beatles; Born in the USA by Bruce Springston; America the Beautiful; Freedom to Stay by Tina Turner; and Think by Aretha Franklin! These are just a few examples. Painters have also created paintings depicting victory and freedom. Our country gained independence and freedom through the sacrifice of many. Our founders created the framework for a Democratic government through the Constitution! Freedom is not to be taken for granted. Let go of complacency if you feel it. Freedom is a choice, isn’t it? For me, freedom to: choose, travel, vote, volunteer, work; believe what I want; live where I want;...

Hear Me Roar!

How do you think of yourself? Close your eyes for a moment and notice how you feel after you read these lyrics from Katy Perry, “‘Cause I’m a champion, and you’re gonna hear me roar!” Hmmm. Sit with it for a moment. Notice the sensations you’re feeling. Do you feel good? Do you feel some resistance? Where do you feel the sensations in your body? I was reminded of how courageous many of you are when I had my channeling evening with Luminus this week. I notice it each and every month but for some reason it feels right to share it now. Luminus is a group of beings/consciousness without form who are filled with unconditional love. As a Trance Channel, I enter into a semi-trance and vocalize them. How often do you think about being courageous when you attend an event? Probably not very often, right? Why do I think of you as being courageous? You’re stepping into the unknown so to speak. There is never a theme for these evenings as they’ve evolved. The questions that are asked of Luminus are very personal. Some of you are there for the first time and yet you trust enough to be vulnerable and open to receive. I am grateful that such a safe environment is created that supports the courageous YOU! In the broader sense I feel that everyone who has made a conscious choice to keep going, exploring, and moving forward on their spiritual journey is courageous! I often think the journey of awakening isn’t for the faint of heart! LOL The desire to awaken and remember is...

Dream. Imagine. Vision

Dream. Imagine. Vision. Have you done it lately? Is there a right or wrong way to do it? Not really. When was the last time you let your imagination run wild? Yes, wild! Do you include fun, spontaneity, and/or limitless possibilities? Many of you may have celebrated the Summer Solstice this week on June 21st! It’s considered to be the longest day of the year and often the first day of summer. It’s a time of transition from one season to another and some of you may have created intentional rituals to acknowledge the new time. It can symbolize, for many, a letting go time and doors opening for new possibilities. It’s a great time to dream, imagine, and vision! Why not? It can be fun and easy if you take time to let your imagination out to play! Have you been holding it in check lately because you don’t see a way to have it be real? You don’t have to know how things will happen. The first step is to allow the dream and vision to emerge. Does this make sense? Get it out! You can speak it, draw it, write about it, or create a vision board to visually represent it with words and pictures for example. There are many ways to express it creatively. Maybe you want to sing it!! For it to work be conscious and intentional. Having hope, faith, and belief that it’s possible is key. Really “feel” it! Yes, notice how your body feels and responds when you imagine it becoming a reality. How will you celebrate? How will you “feel” when...

Meeting Soul!

The beauty deep within each and every sentient being yearns to awaken! This is Soul, the Divine Feminine, yearning to be acknowledged and connect more consciously with you. Soul may also be referred to as essence, life force, or your eternal self. Have you felt restless lately and don’t know why? Have you yearned for something more but don’t know what it is? Is there something you want to change in your life but it’s just out of your grasp? Have you listened to music or seen a beautiful piece of art and are so touched that your heart clenches or tears appear for no reason? These are indicators that Soul is awakening. Mine began awakening over 30 years ago while praying in church. The music touched me and tears rolled down my cheeks. I didn’t know until many years later what was going on. Why do I believe it’s important to engage Soul more consciously? In times of uncertainty and chaos, times like now, I feel that Soul can comfort and guide us. After thousands of years of suppressing women, people of color, LGBTQ, and those who believe differently Soul helps us to become more compassionate, kind, loving, lovable, unifying, and willing to listen to others. Soul also, along with High Self, holds a greater vision for each one of us. I know that I’ve mentioned this in earlier writings. What are ways to engage with Soul more consciously? I’m happy to share a couple of them with you. First, immerse yourself in beauty! Take a walk in nature. Notice the beauty around you. What colors, smells, or...

Be Free!

Have any of you thought about what being free or freedom means to you this week? I have. Throughout my life there have been times when I know that I’ve taken freedom for granted. More and more I’m grateful for being free to choose, vote; share my ideas and opinions; go to school, work, travel, help others, love, be loved; live where I want to live; and believe what I want to believe. These are some of the freedoms that are important to me. I’m grateful! I observed the honoring of Veterans who lost their lives during the Battle of Normandy this week and my heart and soul were touched at a deep level. I thought of my dad who wasn’t at Normandy but served on a Merchant Marine ship in the Pacific during World War II. Like some soldiers, during this war, he convinced his dad to lie about his age in order to serve. Protecting the country, our freedom, and helping our Allies was key. I was also reminded of several friends and acquaintances who were drafted or volunteered for the draft during the Vietnam war. Some returned and some did not. One of my brothers was stationed in South Korea while tensions rose with North Korea. I know that I’m not unique. Many of you have friends and family members who have served as well. The reasons behind these wars hasn’t always been clear. And yet, we continue to send troops around the world helping others protect their freedoms and ultimately ours. I thought about our founding fathers and those who fought for freedom as the...

Faith and Hope

Everyday seems to bring a new distraction. Government antics. International upsets. Personal tragedies. Community violence. Where does one turn to feel secure and safe? Truly, security and safety must be felt within each one of us first.  Hmmm. I ask, “How can I feel secure and safe within so much chaos?” The guidance I still receive is that security, safety, faith and hope must begin within me! If I hold that space and resonance it can change me and affect others. Sounds simple doesn’t it? Some days I feel like I’m living in an alternate reality and observing some really bizarre behaviors! Does this process still apply? Yes! So what’s the difference between faith and hope? Is it important to have both? To me, faith means believing in something without having any proof. Hope means that I have a desire and believe and expect something will happen. I suppose we can debate the nuances of both but let’s not! I believe that both can co-exist. For example, I believe that positive change will result from todays’ chaos. I’m hopeful! I trust it will be so. I have faith that things will change and be more positive in our world but don’t know how it will occur. Does this make sense? Faith and hope co-existing. Is it necessary for both to present at the same time? Maybe not. I’ll leave it up to you. What part do I play in all of this? Do I just wish, hope, and have faith that it will happen? No, this is only part of it. Taking personal time to be quiet and reflect...

Where Does Peace Begin?

Can you imagine living in a world where peace, kindness, caring, love and respect for one another prevail? For a few minutes let your imagination run wild! When was the last time you played with your imagination? Ready? Now close your eyes, take a few deep and cleansing breaths, bring your awareness into your heart space and imagine. What will change in your world? What does your world feel like? Engage your senses. Notice the smells, colors, and sounds. Notice what’s different in your surroundings. Notice how you feel. What will you have to change to live there? Each of our imagined worlds will most likely look different in some aspects. That’s ok! As I think about a more peaceful world I’m reflecting on Memorial Day. I know there will be many family gatherings during this long weekend. Along with celebrations there will be remembering. My Dad served during World War II. My brother served in South Korea and several people I know served in Vietnam. Some came home, some are still MIA, while others are memorialized in Washington, D.C. and in our hearts. We still have many loved ones deployed around the world today. I am grateful for their service. What if peace, kindness, caring, love and respect for one another prevail? How would we change? What will it take? Remember, peace must begin within each one of us first! Wait a minute! The world is huge, isn’t it? Isn’t there enough room for all of us to peacefully co-exist? What can I do to co-create and live in a peaceful world? It seems overwhelming at times when...

Choice is Mine!

What is it about having choices that feels so empowering? Hmmm. I’m reminded of a book that I wrote and published in 2007 entitled Choice, A Simple Way to Peace. I wrote it as Emily, a young teenager, who woke up one morning and began to ask questions like, “What will the world be like when I step into my future? Who can I turn to for answers?” Sound familiar? These questions have come up again, for me, as I listen to lawmake passing bills that, if upheld, take away women’s and human rights. I promise that this is not meant to be political. As a woman; however; I find it chilling that this is even on the table for consideration. I understand that a lot of underlying fear drives some of this restrictive behavior. For me, it triggers a feeling of dread. I understand that I can move through this dread, a perceived loss of personal freedom, and once I’m through it I will be able to see a new and more positive reality. When I wrote the book Choice over twelve years ago I noticed that many of the same concerns voiced by Emily are still prevalent now! She realized that the only way for things to change was for each person to change. “Peace begins within” as Thich Nhat Han reminds us. For something to change in our environment we must first change within ourselves! In other words, if I don’t change then how can I expect others around me to change? This brings me to the gift of choice that each one of us has....

The Gift of Flowers

I hope all of you who celebrate Mother’s Day enjoyed a beautiful day whether you’re considered a “traditional” or “un-traditional” mother! I applaud and celebrate all of you! As I think about Mother’s Day I remember my mom. Through the years we had our disagreements but I always knew she loved me and was there for me. She passed 2 years ago and I find myself thinking and remembering her when I least expect it. I miss her physical presence although she remains in my heart and memories. I also think about my role as a daughter and mom. I don’t know about you, but I didn’t find a “how to be a successful daughter or mom” book. LOL I looked to others and the maps they created to make it easier for me. There were times that I made my own. I realize that dwelling on the past looking at things that I would do differently is not realistic. Rather, learning from the past and being aware of the choices I make now is what’s important. As I talk to friends I realize that there are many ways that moms are celebrated! Sending and receiving flowers is one of them. To me, flowers have a language of their own. I love to receive flowers and when I receive them I feel happy! In fact, I like to receive them all year long and have them blooming in my garden as often as possible! There doesn’t have to be a special occasion! LOL I mentioned that I believe that flowers have their own language. What do I mean? When...

Think or Feel?

Are you a “thinker” or a “feeler”? Years ago I was asked to notice how many times I say, “I think and I feel”. It was an eye opener for me. I found that when I communicated I said, “I think more than I feel”. I was encouraged to begin to lean more into feeling. I’m not saying to stop thinking! For many of us it’s how we process. My journey of being more in touch with my emotions began at that point. So why am I sharing this with you now? Since then I’ve learned that emotions are what’s real and suppressing them can often create disharmony in our physical bodies. Having spent many years working for an international company I learned it was more acceptable to use logic and reason when expressing myself. My “thinking” self developed very large muscles, so to speak, and in turn carried over into how I always communicated! Until I was asked to notice how many times I said “I think” versus “I feel” I was unaware. Once again, I was reminded this week how important it is to express how I feel after reading a quote from Maya Angelou who said, “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” I sometimes listen to Today’s Country on Pandora and it came up again when I heard Ed Sheeran singing about feelings through his lyrics, “How would you feel. . .?” I know there are many artists who sing and write about feelings and I’m sure...