Comfort Zone

Everything changes.

I’ve known this for years. And yet, sometimes it still surprises me. We plan for change or expect it when we experience major life events or experience. When we change jobs, get into or out of a relationship, move or experience a birth or death. We know change will occur then.

But sometimes it just happens in our day-to-day existence. When nothing in particular seems to be the motivating factor. We are navigating our comfort zone, only to realize our comfort zone no longer fits.

I am experiencing this awareness on both ends of the spectrum. There are amazing new people, opportunities, experiences and things drawing me toward them… At the same time, there are others that are disappearing or I am no longer connected to.

I am having a hard time relating to somethings, that a short time ago, might have seemed like solid part of my comfort zone. They are slipping away.

As I reflect on this phenomenon today, I have a theory. I have been reminding myself (and the people around me!) to ‘follow the energy’. To stay attuned to what feels right, aligned, joyful or fun.

So my theory is that if we follow the energy, our own energies morph. It is a bit like the particle and the wave. When a particle is observed, it becomes a wave.., just by the act of being observed.

To relate this back to “following the energy”; when we focus on and watch the energy… it shifts our state of being. We move from being a particle to a wave. We are changing based on where we are putting our attention or focus. (I know…, now that I say it I get a big DUH!)

But I think this is important to realize. You see this is one of the challenges of being on a spiritual journey. Sometimes it is confusing, hard, sad or challenging. There is great fulfillment in honoring and developing our spiritual nature. But there is also loss. Loss of what we’ve known. Loss of what was once comfortable and comforting.

This doesn’t mean we never find comfort again. But, for many of us, it is a constant process of movement and change. We are committed to the deepening of our spiritual nature and connecting with our internal strength and guidance. So much so that we are willing to be in a constant state of metamorphosis.

Where the movement from status quo, to chaos, to change, to a new status quo becomes a way of life. It becomes normal for us.

And then like me.., one day you realize that simply by paying attention to and following your own energetic joy and rightness.., you have placed yourself in the inevitable cycle of constant change.

Suddenly I am overwhelmed with gratitude for those things in my life that are resilient enough to ride the waves with me. Those relationships, connections and even environmental things (home, walking paths, store, and even favorite restaurants and watering-holes) that provide some sense of stability within the constant storm of change. Because as much as I keep getting pushed out of my comfort zone.., the truth is I don’t see that coming to an end, anytime soon.

So if you are in the middle of chaos or change.., know I am right there with you! I will see you in the next comfort zone!

With Light, Love, and Laughter


  1. so true… sounds so familiar and such great advice… this will be my meditation today… uplifting for sure…

    • Thanks Darla! You’re always so supportive!

  2. Thank you! As always your words of wisdom are comforting and provide me with an ah ha 😃

    • Glad they were helpful Teri!

  3. Charles, BRILLIANT! And for me, so timely. A relative I have loved and admired for 30 years has become cold and hateful, and I am releasing and grieving that relationship. I have so many questions, but it doesn’t matter. Guidance says “SEVER”. I’m working on it. Perhaps our comfort zone is a bubble we are in, within which we move along our Path. May I quote you in an upcoming article? Blessings!

    • It’s particularly hard when it is someone so close Kebba… Yet, somewhere in the back of our senses.., we also know the rightness of what is happening…, even when it feels like a loss. Please feel free to quote.

  4. This is so elegantly descriptive and clarifying, Charles. I feel the same but had not identified it as you have so neatly done. Thank you for another wonderful post!

    • Thanks Vikki!

  5. Describes my very state of being – perfectly said!

    • Birds of a feather Shana! 😎

    • Thanks Diana! 🤗

  6. Status quo, comfort zone, etc. are all thought created boxes which in reality are created to slow down or limit growth by our small ego self who hates change because it is something it cannot control. Shift to loving allowance, appreciation and gratitude, then watch the self imposed walls melt like a snowball in the AZ sun. Then feel the freedom when there are no more blocks/vails to the flow of any level of energy. Yes, things here on Earth are meant to come and go, even our perceived close relationships, which brings to mind a definition of ‘soul mate’ I heard last week (no sexual connotation in it) – a soul mate is someone who remains your friend throughout your life no matter what level of awareness you are exhibiting to the world even though they might not be on your level any longer. Ain’t life grand!

    • Thanks Joseph!

    • Thank you Joseph!


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