Stop Whining

stopwhinningI like to think of myself as a positive upbeat guy. My goal is to see the good in life. Embrace situations for what they are and what they offer. I live with the motto everything that happens is ‘for us’ not ‘to us’.

But boy, do I have an active internal whiner!

When I get this way, I am not usually aware of it right away. Instead, I let it go on for awhile. I imagine I am trudging uphill in lead boots. Everything seems like an effort and the things I am trying to create seem elusive. Nothing seems to be working out! At least not the way I want them to.

Somewhere along the way I begin to whine. Not necessarily to others.., but definitely to myself. Oh crap, who am I kidding… I whine to others as well. It is not my intention.., but when we are feeling something on the inside.., it is usually seeping out somewhere.

I think I am a master at hiding these things! In fact for years I prided myself on my ability to perform for others. That somehow I could be all things to all people. If you can relate, then you know that type performance is all about “control”. One of the biggest illusions in life… control.

So my whining has been seeping out. I am sure.

The thing about whining is it gets old. It gets boring. It eventually becomes less subtle and even I have to acknowledge that ‘whining’ is where I have been hanging out! Damn it!

So now that I am aware of this (again!), it is time to let it go. Time to get with the program and get present with myself. If I stop whining.., what is possible? What naturally wants to happen? If I am not focused on what ISN’T working.., is there something that is? Or is there something new that wants to emerge?

I hate to say it, but I love when the veil of limitation begins to lift. Because that is what usually gets me hooked. The feeling of limitation. Something I want to do; a place I want to see or experience; something I want to create; yet it is just not happening or working. Not getting what I want makes me whine! Yuck!

And aren’t all of our limitations in our head? It may appear that others are involved or are creating the limitations. But is that ever true? Aren’t we just stuck on doing or getting something our own way? As if there is only one way (My way!) to accomplish that thing.

I am happy for the end of this year. Not because it has been a bad year. But because it has given me the opportunity to think about what is coming to an end and what new wants to be created. It is this reflection and contemplation that has made me aware of the funky energies I have been hanging out in. It is what has made me realize how much whining has been happening in my head.

As I think about it now, it seems funny! I have an amazing life. What’s there to whine about?

As this year comes to a close, I hope you take the time to reflect on what you are creating. What you are completing. What new is and/or wants to emerge? These natural endings and beginnings hold powerful reflections and insights. Take advantage of them while they are here!

With Light, Love, and Laughter


  1. LOVED!!!! Happy holidays from an ABQ friend!

    • Thanks ABQ friend! 🤓

  2. Your internal whiner must not come out around me…I don’t experience you whining, but rather, exploring the potential of the dream seeds you have cast out to the edge of your awareness. Looking forward to working our magic together, with even more grace and ease, in 2017!

    • Ahh… thanks Vikki! Yes! To even more with great ease and grace!

  3. Wonderfully written! Thank you for sharing what so many of us feel but don’t always have the courage to admit and/or reflect. Many blessings to you and your loved ones this holiday season! ~ much gratitude, Melissa

    • Thanks Melissa… and Blessing back to you and your loved ones!

  4. Another home run! Perhaps your whining was only given to you so you could share what your just shared. That would mean the Universe and your Soul do have a sense of humor 🙂 Your sharing’s are a gift to all that read them, and I hope will continue through another year and beyond.
    Blessings, Joseph

    • That is a nice thought Joseph and goes along nicely with my belief that everything happens for a reason! This takes “everything” to a whole new level! 🤓

      I am so grateful to have your support and encouragement.., it means so much! Thank you.., and I hope you have an amazing year ahead!

      • Love this! You write so personally and Beautifully. I never thought about whining to myself 🙂 xoxx

        • Thanks Tricia’s, sometimes it’s just all in our head. Course that usually means it’s seeping out someplace. Thanks for your feedback. – Charles

  5. Inspirational! So aptly put.

    • Thanks Moon Star!


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