Are you a “thinker” or a “feeler”? Years ago I was asked to notice how many times I say, “I think and I feel”. It was an eye opener for me. I found that when I communicated I said, “I think more than I feel”. I was encouraged to begin to lean more into feeling. I’m not saying to stop thinking! For many of us it’s how we process. My journey of being more in touch with my emotions began at that point. So why am I sharing this with you now?
Since then I’ve learned that emotions are what’s real and suppressing them can often create disharmony in our physical bodies. Having spent many years working for an international company I learned it was more acceptable to use logic and reason when expressing myself. My “thinking” self developed very large muscles, so to speak, and in turn carried over into how I always communicated! Until I was asked to notice how many times I said “I think” versus “I feel” I was unaware.
Once again, I was reminded this week how important it is to express how I feel after reading a quote from Maya Angelou who said, “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” I sometimes listen to Today’s Country on Pandora and it came up again when I heard Ed Sheeran singing about feelings through his lyrics, “How would you feel. . .?” I know there are many artists who sing and write about feelings and I’m sure you know a few. Hmmm. . .think or feel?
As I sat with this I asked, “Is there something in me to be more aware of regarding how I feel about things? Am I enjoying the full richness of the emotions I experience or am I still suppressing them? Have I become more comfortable feeling and expressing emotion in my life?” Whew, I don’t know about you but sometimes I find feeling and expressing emotion can be difficult to do. I feel I’m getting better at it the more I do it. Does this make sense?
Does it really matter one way or the other? I guess this is something for each one of us to decide. For me, I’ve noticed a difference. At first I felt uncomfortable changing how I communicate. It didn’t happen overnight. In fact, I’ve found that the more comfortable I feel with me I allow myself to communicate from my heart and I connect with people in a different way. It feels deeper. I feel more vulnerable and real. In a way, I feel like I’m more exposed. People have told me that they notice a change especially in how I write. It’s been a journey of consciously choosing to change the way I communicate. That’s how it begins!
Don’t get me wrong. The change doesn’t mean I don’t think about things or use logic and reason to sort out choices I want to make. There’s a place and time for both. How about you? How do you communicate? Is it more from “thinking” or “feeling”? I would love to hear from you!
On Tuesday, May 14th, Gisela and I will be offering healing with the amazing and powerful Messengers of Light at Storm Wisdom from 6:30p-8:30p. Space is limited so don’t forget to reserve your space now!