“With the right mindset, you can survive; thrive and grow . . . Even in the midst of turbulence and change.”
Tony Dovale, Spanish professional footballer

I want to thank Charles for his timely and relevant articles for the last two weeks while I was out of town. 

The past week has brought unsettling news from the Supreme Court for many people in the country and I thought about Charles’ article “Take a Side”.  I realize how easy it is to slide into taking sides when emotions are triggered. I found myself expressing my own passionate point of view to my husband and realized that I could spiral into a very negative place of depression and despair or choose how I respond to what’s happening in a more positive and constructive way. I could become more of an observer and witness instead. I found myself thinking, “I’m a survivor!” In reality I’m more than a survivor and how I choose to respond to any circumstance determines my experience. So, I chose to focus on what I can control. I found that I felt more neutral rather than so emotionally triggered.

I agree with American poet and civil rights activist, Maya Angelou, who said, “My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.” I choose to thrive as I have throughout my life allowing for the highs and lows but always choosing to create more positive experiences and choices within my control. It’s during these emotionally charged times that it’s helpful to dust off your ‘toolkit’ and use the tools that help you center, resist taking sides, focus on gratitude, seek to understand, and then determine what if anything is yours to do!

What brings you joy? What do you feel passionate about deep within your heart? Switch your focus here. What can I control? How will I respond? So much is within your power. It’s ok to allow your emotions to be felt and expressed for there is a wide range isn’t there? Suppressing them isn’t the answer and ultimately will cause problems within your body if you do. So take charge and choose more than surviving. Choose to thrive! Feel your own joy and passion without apology. Maya Angelou has said, “When you wish someone joy, you wish them peace, love, prosperity, happiness . . . All the good things.” Wish someone joy even if they are struggling to survive in the moment – seek to understand what’s going on their life if they are willing to share. Will you choose to thrive or survive?

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