Now – The New Normal

Life is in transition. Something new is emerging and I feel the rightness of it. All of this is happening while I am intentionally focusing on staying present and not initiating anything new. This means not taking on new, long term ventures or projects.

I’ve given myself 6 months to just focus on the moment. As new ideas pop-up or new directions reveal themselves, I simply write it on a piece of paper and stick it on my office wall to be reviewed next year.

And yet.., everything is changing. Life has its own momentum, that in the past, I’m sure my ego thought I was crafting. It was MY agenda unfolding.

Of course, when my mind takes over and begins to drive towards an end result, any hiccups, barriers or blocks, feel personal. As if they are happening to or against me. Then my emotions get into the game as well. It all becomes so personal.

So now, as I am simply observing and staying present.., none of that is happening. My mind isn’t racing into the future (to much!) to figure it out or come up with a plan. And my emotions are in ‘observer’ mode too. There is nothing to get upset about or disappointed by when I am not attached to an outcome.

That is a pretty profound awareness for someone who tends to want to be in charge and control of his own destiny!

Everything seems a bit detached in one way. But in another, because of this focus on staying present, I feel like I am even more apart of it. I am experiencing it as it is happening. It is the plan or agenda that is missing and the emotional ups and downs of it unfolding according to that plan, that are absent.

In fact, there is a part of me that keeps policing the landscape to determine if it really could be this quiet. This easy.

The other thing that is amplified during this time of transition, is the level of synchronicity that is at play. I am watching things unfold in magical ways.  I am observing the coincidences, timing, and alignment of events that keep occurring as various situations unfold. It is astounding.

Here’s an example. A couple of weeks ago, while Fito and I were driving to Juarez for the weekend, he got a text from an acquaintance saying he had a buyer for our piano. Fito asked me if I was looking to sell it. What a strange call. I said “no…, it never really crossed my mind.” We both we a little surprised by the text…, but it opened a door. We began to wonder about whether we should and if so what would be a fair price. I told Fito I needed to think about it.

For the last 6 months or so, we have been planning some remodeling in our home. A couple of projects that might take another year or so to pull off. At one point I began to imagine or visualize what our home might look like once these projects were completed. Since we have been figuring out the logistics of this remodel for a few months, it was not the first time I have been in this fantasy loop.

This time as I was imaging or envisioning what the finished space would look like, I realized that every time I did this, the piano was no longer in the space. It wasn’t in my vision of the future.  This was simply a detail I had missed before. In that moment, I knew it was time to let the piano go. Everything fell into place, and after 26 years, on Friday it was picked up and headed to its new home.

And it all feels right.

This staying present and connected to the moment is turning out to be a pretty magical experience. I’m giving myself 6 months. But who knows, maybe it will simply become the new normal!

With Light, Love, and Laughter


  1. Wonderful, Charles. Love the openness to receive, the presence to recognize and observe the potential with each receiving, and the drive/intention to explore beyond the initial knee jerk reaction. This helps me understand a similar experience I had yesterday. Slowing everything down when what’s happening does not jive with my vision/plan/intention is difficult. Yet, to keep opening up to the unknown or unexpected is freeing. Like you, I found myself coming round to a ‘yes’ when I thought the ‘no’ was solid. I’m excited and eager to see the result of my (our) decisions. See you soon my friend!

    • I love that we are on the same page.., and BTW, Thanks for telling me about the book “Letting Go”! I am thrilled that later this week you will be able to tell me about your decision in person as we begin yet another adventure! Yay!

  2. Thank you, Charles, I know now that it is possible to do just what you are talking about. I have been a little scared to do that. Now I know that I can do it, too. Thanks.

    • Funny that it’s our minds that tell us it’s “hard” or “scary”, isn’t it Linda!?! We can do this!

  3. What wonderful discoveries, Charles! I love the piano story, just a brilliant demonstration of the combined ease and elegance of residing in the now, letting go and still enjoying visions of future joys!

    • Thanks Vikki… Some of this stuff is pretty amazing! Ease and Elegance Baby! Ease and Elegance!

  4. That’s AWESOME CHARLES! YAY FOR YOU! I feel that when we get out of our way (heads) and allow Flow in the Present Moment…we will function more from the heart.and that’s when the MAGIC happens. I’m working on it as well. You may have heard of Heart Math. I witnessed it in person at a Chronic Stress Workshop at VIrginia Piper. They now know that the Heart is more intelligent than the brain…that it sends out more signals than the brain does.. You’ll find lots of info on it.

    • Thanks for the heads up.., and the encouragement Donna! I will check it out! By the way.., makes sense to me that the Heart has higher intelligence!

  5. Hi, Charles… Great post! Trying to manage any project or expect any outcomes is what keeps people from the Present Moment and the ability to be an Observer. Observing the remodeling projects well in advance let you know that the piano may not be a part of your future. This was the beginning of the guidance you were receiving that it was time to let the piano go.

    What most people do not realize is that the guidance starts coming long before you thought it did. It didn’t just happen when you got that text message. If you Journal your guidance and date it, you will start to see patterns that occur over long periods of time.

    I have just written my fourth book called “My Guide Journal of Self-Discovery and Personal Transformation” and it is available as a FREE download at my website ( .I also do a FB Live! session every Thursday night at 6:00 PM Pacific time on my FB Author Page that walks people through the steps of journaling with this unique journal to remember the forgotten knowledge that you brought with you when you came into this life. Remembering this knowledge triggers memories that have affected every decision you’ve made since coming here and rekindle the spiritual connection many have lost along the way…putting them back on their path.

    Linda Deir, author of GUIDED

    • Thanks Linda for sharing your insights!

  6. So enjoyed your sharing! I (plan) (am) starting my journey of presence. 🙂

    • Well LynnRae.., I think this is an ideal time for it… for yourself, the people around you, and the planet. Hooray!


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