What About Control?

Over the past couple of weeks I can’t believe how many people I’ve talked to that are having opportunities to recognize and address “control” stuff. Yes, this includes me too!! I keep thinking I’ve completely dealt with my need or desire to “control” things. What I realize is that “dealing” with it is still a form of wanting to “control” the outcome. Hmmm. “How did “control” show up for me this time”, you ask? 

Imagine you’re on a road trip and riding as a passenger. Imagine you have total faith and trust in the driver. Now imagine your right foot starts applying the brake because you feel that you are too close to the car in front of you! Yes, and imagine this happening a number of times during the trip and wondering, “What in the heck is going on?” You tell the driver during a stop, “I’m sorry for applying the brake so often. I trust your driving completely. Is this something new?” They said, “No, it’s happened before but it’s ok!” Wow. I had a choice to make. I could relax, acknowledge, accept, and try not to dig a hole in the floor of the car or I could beat myself up and judge myself. Guess what I chose to do? LOL

When we returned home and I had time to reflect on what happened I realized that this was an example of how uncomfortable I was because I wasn’t driving and feeling in “control”. Whew! We have so many opportunities to see layers of ourselves, don’t we? They can appear in a variety of ways. A couple of days later I had an opportunity to share my story with a couple of friends and they began to tell me that they were having different experiences as well. All of them were about “control”! Synchronicity! 

As we shared we were able to laugh together which further helped to release more self-judgment. It’s nice to know we aren’t alone. Being able to laugh at myself indicated, to me, that I’m in a more accepting and healthier relationship with my need and desire to “control” things. How about you? Has the need or desire to “control” things or outcomes come up for you recently?

I believe more and more opportunities to release old habits and behaviors are appearing for each one of us to address or not. More opportunities to explore and become more are also presented. This is a time for great personal growth; a time to re-invent ourselves if we choose. It’s a time to imagine and vision who we want to become more of and the life we want to live.

Many of you have your own practices and tools to help with releasing old habits and behaviors when they show up. Some of you seek help from others when needed. I, too, seek help from others when needed. I also have my own tool kit. One tool I use was created by Dr. Bradley Nelson, author of The Emotion Code. Tapping, setting intentions, visualization, and toning are a few others. I also ask for help from God/Goddess/All That Is, High Self, and my unseen friends. I realize that the only thing I can control are my choices and how I respond to the choices of others.

Gisela and I are excited to offer a healing evening with the powerful and loving Messengers of Light on Tuesday, August 13, 2019, from 6:30 – 8:30p at Storm Wisdom. Seating is limited so please reserve your space early!

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