“You have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving yourself and see what happens.” Louise Hay, American author and founder of Hay House
How do you feel when someone says, “You really look good or I love how you’re helping others or You are really patient with someone who is suffering?” There are many other personal compliments you can remember, I’m sure. Do you naturally accept the compliment with grace or do you try to minimize it? I love Louise Hay’s comment and wonder how many of you try to minimize compliments? I know that I have in the past. In fact, recently someone gave me a beautiful compliment and my first thought was to pick it apart! Weird, huh? I immediately recognized what I was doing and told that inner voice of doubt to be quiet! Then I took a deep breath, shook my head, and said, “Thank you!” Whew! It’s a reminder to be ever vigilant because our thoughts create things! I’m so done with self-doubt! Are you?
Another way to replace the voice of self-doubt is to spend a few moments with positive reinforcing intentions. Take a few deep cleansing breaths and bring your awareness to your heart space. Imagine your eternal flame of love burning bright. Now create your positive intentions. For example, I deserve to be happy, I deserve to be loved, I deserve abundance in my life, I deserve a loving family and relationships, I deserve to be supported, I deserve to have fun, I deserve to be surrounded by beauty, I deserve to be accepted, I deserve to be heard, I deserve to be valued and cherished, and so much more! I’m sure you have your own list! Have fun creating it! Write it down if it helps you to integrate the beliefs more fully.
The inspirational author, Alan Cohen, has said “Wouldn’t it be powerful if you fell in love with yourself so deeply that you would do just about anything if you knew it would make you happy? This is precisely how much life loves you and wants you to nurture yourself. The deeper you love yourself, the more the universe will affirm your worth. Then you can enjoy a lifelong love affair that brings you the richest fulfillment from inside out.” Imagine a lifelong love affair that gets better and more fulfilling as time goes on. Imagine the deeper you love yourself, others will respond to you more positively. Remember, there is no one who can define your worth except you! Only you! Self-love, self-care, and self-acceptance are key! You are in charge! Rather than seek love and acceptance from others, seek it from yourself!
Religious leader, the Buddha, has said that, “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” Take back your power if you’ve given it to someone else. Be powerful as you fall in love with yourself and see how happy you can become! Recognize when the inner voice of self-doubt begins to speak and tell it to be quiet! Send it on a holiday or call a timeout! Remember, you’re in charge! Trust and believe in you. You are your best advocate and cheerleader! Be aware of others who want you to believe you are undeserving, undesirable, or unworthy. Those who do reflect their own insecurities. YOU ARE ENOUGH!
I hope your week is amazing and filled with love and joy!
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