“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” Buddha, Spiritual teacher
What do you feel when someone says to you, “Love yourself!” When it comes to love how often do you think of loving others first? Do you save your love for them and then find that your well is too dry when it comes to yourself? Or, is finding the right person the focus of your love? It’s pretty common that people ‘looking for love’ view love more externally. For example, many people believe that if the ‘right person’ is found then happiness is guaranteed. What do you believe? What if you change the lens of how you view love and yourself? What if you switch from looking for the ‘right person’ and become the person you want to spend your life with? This doesn’t mean you won’t be in beautiful, fulfilling, and intimate relationships. You can.
American poet and civil rights activist, Maya Angelou, has said that “The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself.” When you look through the lens of love, the love you already are, can you see and accept that you deserve to be loved and deserve your own love and affection? It’s not selfish. So many experiences and traumas from this time and others shape how we view ourselves. When I work with clients it’s pretty common that feeling unworthy or undeserving comes up. I’ve experienced these feelings myself through the years. The more willing you are to change what you believe and let go of old habits and stories helps.
If you believe, as I do, that our core essence from Creator, God/Goddess/All That is, Source is LOVE then how can you be undeserving of loving and being loved? Changing how we perceive what we’ve been taught and what we believe can be challenging. It can be done if we are willing to change what we believe about ourselves. In your quiet moments of reflection ask, “What in me am I willing to change to become the person I want to spend the rest of my life with? What beliefs, habits or perceptions must I let go of to love myself first?” If you choose to make changes then notice any differences in how people begin to respond to you.
Canadian poet and author, Rupi Kaur, has said that “How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you.” Are you ready to love yourself enough to set healthy boundaries, rest when you’re tired, create quiet time for yourself, follow your passion and joy, create space for quality time with loved ones, become more healthy, understanding, accepting, loving, kind, and compassionate? Remember, you deserve your love and acceptance first. During these times of great change I encourage you to create several minutes of quiet and reflective time during the week. The one in charge of you is you! Your experiences will be a result of your choices and how you respond to others’ choices. Why not embrace and accept that you deserve your love and affection first? I am. See your eyes as you look yourself in the mirror each day and say, “I love you!” It feels weird at first but eventually it feels good. I hope your holiday weekend was safe and fun. I’m sending you lots of love! Have a beautiful week filled with love.
I’m available for private coaching and channeled information sessions at Storm Wisdom on Tuesdays from 1p – 6p by appointment. Please call Storm Wisdom, (602)334-1204 to schedule. I’m also available by phone or Zoom. To schedule please go to victoriabarna.com.