Blame and money. Money and blame. This has been my song this week and most of the time, it seems I have it on loudspeaker!
Here is how it keeps revealing itself. I open a piece of mail and find that someone or some company is demanding money. I realize saying ‘a lot of money’ is relative. If you have lots of zeros in your account balance, it feels different than if you have a few. However in the context of this conversations… Most of these demands are for more zeros than I have in my account AND there are several smaller ones that add up to more discomfort.
My initial reaction to each one of these is that the debt is not mine. I feel duped, mislead, lied to, and innocent. Which leads to anger, fear and feeling powerless. So I search for leverage and instead find blame. They did this to me! They are bad, they are taking advantage. They, they, they. It activates so many constricting emotions that I feel almost paralyzed. I certainly don’t feel empowered. So I use blame to direct anger and fury at THEM!
I am slow to see the pattern of what is unfolding before me. Each situation is about money. Each time my reaction is to blames others, as if I have no culpability. There is an entitlement to my anger and someone (else) needs to pay!
By the third or fourth time I find myself cussing someone out and feeling indignant, with my blood about to boil; I realize the Universe is sending me a message. That these situations, that seem to have arrived in a bundle are not about money. They are about my beliefs, attitude and values. Each one is an opportunity to stay present and to stay in my personal authority. A chance to take responsibility for my own reality creation. So far.., I have failed miserably. At least initially.
First of all; what happened to my healthy relationship with money? Where did my belief that I easily create abundance and wealth in my life go? Instead of looking at these situations as an opportunities to create what I need, I immediately went to scarcity and lack. As if I could not create enough. Is this how my life is now? Is that my new belief?
Let’s face it, starting a new business and watching your life’s savings dwindle over the course of several years, probably does play tricks with your psyche! However, my personal financial situation or in truth, the change in it, was something that almost anyone who starts an adventure like this should be able to predict. It is part of recreating your dreams. So when did the mentality of scarcity and lack sneak in?
Now I am not saying that I will simply pay all of these charges or bills. I will dispute the ones that I feel are in appropriate and I will take my share of the lessons from the ones where there were communication breakdowns. Some I will simply pay, because it would cost more in my time, than they are worth. But in general, I am releasing the unhealthy emotional binds created by these unexpected demands. It is time to lean into the resourceful aspects of self that are more than capable of bringing these to right resolution.
It is also time to reinvest time and energy into having a healthy relationship with money! Time to get intimate with the beauty, flow and support that comes from honoring and cherishing money and what it creates in our lives. It is the most prevalent energetic exchange that happens on our planet. So why would I choose to be disconnected from this energy source?
Time to step into the middle of my relationship with money and to allow it to be an ally – not distant or estranged. It is time to end the blame game!
With Light, Love, and Laughter
Hello Charles! Wow, this is fascinating… this is one of the many subjects we discuss in all the manifestation, law of attraction, EFT and Silva of course! Here’s just a reminder, cuz I know you know ALL this stuff, the universe is abundant, yes. We will always go down a diseases path if we find ourselves wondering about the “fairness” of the exchange of money for whatever service or product we mistakenly agreed to purchase. Remember, part of your psychic state of mind and/or attachment with fear about losing the money, is because you are feeling the energy of the other people at the other end of the transaction… we are tied like psychic transparent ropes to any and all transactions that have any residue of mixed intention, until we let it go completely. All the other side of the transaction to have whatever point of view they want to have. For YOU, however, the trick is to let go of attaching a certain amount of money to the other side of the transaction as if the bounty or fairness will play out or balance out in that individual transaction. It rarely works that way. It usually works like this… Someone gouges you unintentionally but because they themselves come from fear or hold you to an iron-clad legal contract, even though it might be a immoral or unfair transaction… for example… you pay $10,000 for an MRI, even though it only cost the health service $1200 to perform. It’s a relationship without balance because the health care system holds most of the cards and has the power by being an only source provider, a monopoly if you will. You pay the $10,000, crying all the way to the bank. The following week, you have decided to move from your current condo, where you have been renting for several years, reluctantly but you realize it’s just too small to have your nice expansive open office that you need to function at home; a customer walks in to Storm Wisdom one day and nonchalantly mentions they are leaving Phoenix and have been unable to find a buyer for their palatial estate on Camelback Mountain… if you would move in and keep the place safe and take care of the landscaping and other necessary repairs and so forth, you can live there for free and the owner will also pay the utilities. So, you calculate the savings you will experience over the next 8 months, which is how long they will be gone, and it turns out to be pretty close to the $10,000. The circle goes on. However, if you attach too much meaning to a specific transaction, as if it has to be “fair,” you actually close the door to other more powerful blessings and bounty to come your way. The universe works with the bartering of energy and love and your own expectation.. in Silva we call it DBE… desire, belief, expectancy = faith. You must continue to work on your faith and make that the only important thing. Take all energy off one particular bill or individual or organization demanding money… let that go, pay the money without blame, fault, guilt, resentment, revenge, sorrow or shame, and allow the universe to reimburse you in another way through it’s unlimited bounty and resources. There’s enough out there for you and everyone else. Just like there is enough sun out there for everyone; you wouldn’t fight with anyone or cry about someone demanding a large area to occupy in order to get some sun. Well, universal energy and it’s creative capability is a lot like the sun… unlimited. Hope this helps. Again, if you need to talk, I’m here for you… Darla Desautel, 218-766-5523
Thanks for you input and perspective Darla. I appreciate you taking the time to share it. I hope by putting my process out via writing, which is what this is.., it doesn’t appear as a cry for help or support. It is simply my musings to find my way back to center. I feel fully supported and nourished in my circumstances… Yet, also feel the need to keep it honest and real for myself by sharing the ups and downs (even if you and I are the only ones who ever read them,) through writing. There is something about seeing the words in black and white that help to inform me of what my next step(s) is! Thanks for being willing to witness and share another branch of the process!
Thank you for sharing your stories… they are very real and thus make the rest of us feel normal! You’re the BEST! Darla
Right! I know you are fully in power and a non-stop high-level student of metaphysics and so self-aware to be able to even recognize your own thoughts and feelings; that’s a milestone for most people…and then to top that off, you are able to write about it so lucidly and clearly, like a novelist! I just meant call anytime for another perspective… sometimes just shaking up the scene or lifting a veil on a tiny area of our world can show another light on a dilemma! You know, how coaches and friends do… “Have you ever thought of?” Etc. Speaking of, Have YOU ever thought of being a novelist? Later, Darla
The feeling seems to be making the rounds, Charles. We just spoke of this, at Melting Heart, Saturday morning. We all agreed we needed to “Snap out of it!” lol! Thanks for confirming the message from Spirit. Holding you with a vision of abundance 😉 Have a great week and thanks for sharing! j.
Thanks Juanita! I like the idea of just snapping out of it! Instead of making it some long drawn out process! Just claim our right relationship with abundance! Message received! Thanks for your insights!
I may not comment on things weekly, but know that I am reading them. Many times, you are writing about EXACTLY what I need to look at. Thank you for taking the time to put your thoughts to paper (or should I say cyberspace?). Your perspective is much appreciated and your are loved.
Thank you Glady! We may only get to see one another a few times a year, but I always do feel your support and encouragement! Thanks for the love!
I so hear you, Charles. Thank you for sharing your heart so honestly. As one who has been doing a reluctant (and often blame-filled) dance with money for years and years, your words here have given me a new perspective. I do know that a flowing dance with abundance is available to all of us. I believe it is in the noticing, the owning and the choosing … just like you are doing here. Shall we dance?
Thank Michelle for your recognition and willingness to be in dialog about the need to shift our energies with abundance and specifically money. I think sharing the dance sounds ideal!